Great insights here – really deep and work listening to. Just pick on aspect to become aware of in your own life and implement some of the tips here. I just love how clearly he distinguishes between happiness and joy.

Happiness is a response to a sought after outcome or result – but it is fleeting and dependant on achieving that outcome.

Joy on the other hand is from the soul…and is based on your value system, your purpose, your vision, your very reason for being. In essence, It is who you are.

He says it so well here. Let what ever piece of this wisdom that is for you seep deep into your soul, and Jump For Joy.

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we’ve all got two wolves in a suit a
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good one and a bad they both want to eat
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the best I can tell we just got to feed
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that good one a little more than the
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other one
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happiness is an emotional response to an
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outcome if I win I will be happy if I
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don’t I won’t
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it’s an if-then cause-and-effect quid
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pro quo
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standard that we cannot sustain because
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we immediately raise it every time we
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attain it see happiness happiness
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demands a certain outcome
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it is result reliant and I say if
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happiness is what you’re after then
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you’re gonna be let down frequently and
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you’re gonna be unhappy much of your
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time joy though Joy’s a different thing
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it’s something else
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Joy is not a choice it’s not a response
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to some result it’s a constant joy is
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the feeling that we have from doing what
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we are fashioned to do no matter the
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outcome now personally as an actor I
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started enjoying my work living and
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literally being more happy when I
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stopped trying to make the daily labor a
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means to ascertain in for example I need
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this film to be a box-office success you
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know I need my performance to be
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acknowledged I need the respect of my
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peers are all those are reasonable
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aspirations but the truth is as soon as
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the work the daily making of the movie
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the doing of the deed became the reward
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in itself for me I got more box-office
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more accolades and respect than I ever
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had before see joy is always in process
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it’s under construction it is in
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constant approach alive and well in the
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doing of what we’re fashion to do and
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enjoying the easiest way to dissect
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success
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it’s through gratitude you mean thanks
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for that which we do have for what is
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working appreciating the simple things
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we sometimes take for granted we give
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thanks for these things and that
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gratitude reciprocate creating more to
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be thankful for it’s really simple and
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it works
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I’m not saying being denial of your
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failures no we can learn from them too
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but only if we look at them
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constructively as a means to reveal what
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we are good at but we can’t get better
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at what we do succeed that my life’s a
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verb we try our best we don’t always do
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our best and since we are the architects
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of our own lives let’s study the habits
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the practices the routines that we have
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that lead to and feed our success our
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joy our honest pain our laughter our own
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tears let’s dissect that and give thanks
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for those things and when we do that
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guess what happens we get better at them
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and we have more to dissect it’s a
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get-rich-quick on the Internet riches 15
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minutes of fame world that we live in
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and we see it every day but we all want
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to succeed right so the question that
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we’ve got to ask ourselves is what
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success is to us what success is to you
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is it more money that’s fine I got
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nothing against money maybe it’s a
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healthy family maybe it’s a happy
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marriage maybe it’s to help others to be
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famous to be spiritually sound to leave
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the world a little bit better place than
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you found it
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continue to ask yourself that question
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now your answer may change over time and
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that’s fine but do yourself this favor
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whatever your answer is don’t choose
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anything that will jeopardize your soul
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prioritize who you are who you want to
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be and don’t spend time with anything
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that antagonizes your character don’t
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drink the kool-aid and it tastes sweet
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but you will get cavities tomorrow
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all right life is not a popularity
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contest be brave take
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the hill but first answer that question
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what’s my Hill well for me it’s a
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measurement of five things we got
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fatherhood
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we got being a good husband we got my
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health mind body and spirit we got
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career and we got friendships these are
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what’s important to me in my life right
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now because I want to keep all five in
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healthy shape and I know that if I don’t
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take care of them if I don’t keep up
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maintenance on them one of them is gonna
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get weak man it’s gonna dip too deep
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into the debit section it’s gonna go
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bankrupt it’s gonna get sick die so
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first we have to define success for
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ourselves and then we have to put in the
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work to maintain it take that daily
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tally tend our guard keep the things
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that are important to us in good shape
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defining ourselves by what we are not is
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the first step that leads us to really
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knowing who we are you know that group
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of friends that you hang out with that
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really might not bring out the best in
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you you know they gossip too much or
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they’re kind of shady you really aren’t
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gonna be there for you in a pinch or how
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about that bar that we keep going to
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that we always seem to have the worst
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hangover from over that computer screen
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right the computer screen that keeps
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giving us an excuse not to get out of
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the house and engage with the world and
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get some real human interaction
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I bet that food that would keep eating
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and stuff to taste so good going down
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makes us feel like crap the next week we
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feel lethargic and we keep putting on
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weight well those people those places
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those things stop giving them your time
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and energy just don’t go there I mean
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put them down and when you do this when
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you do put them down when you quit go in
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there and you couldn’t given them your
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time you inadvertently find yourself
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spending more time and in more places
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that are healthy for you that bring you
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more joy why because you just eliminated
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the who’s the where the what’s in the
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winds that were keeping you from your
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identity look trust me too many options
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I promise you this too many options will
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make a tyrant of us all I some get rid
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of the excess the wasted time decrease
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your options if you do this you will
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have accidentally almost innocently put
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it in front of you what is important to
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you my process of elimination no one who
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we are is hard it’s hard so give
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yourself a break
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eliminate who you are not first and
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you’re gonna find yourself where you
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need to be make voluntary obligations
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I’m talking about the ones that we make
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with ourselves with our God with our own
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consciousness I’m talking about the you
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versus you obligations we have to have
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now again these are not societal laws
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expectations that we acknowledge and
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endow for anyone other than ourselves
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these are faith-based obligations that
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we make on our own these are not the
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lowered insurance rates for a good
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driving record you will not be fine to
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put in jail if you do not gratify these
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obligations I speak of no one else
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covers these but you they are your
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secrets with yourself your own private
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counsel personal protocols and while
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nobody throws you a party when you abide
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by them no one’s going to arrest you
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when you break them either except
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yourself an honest man’s pillow is his
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peace of mind and when you lay down on
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that pillow at night no matter who’s in
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your bed we all sleep alone these are
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your personal jiminy crickets and there
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are not enough cops in the entire world
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to police them it’s on you
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it’s all on you we do our best when our
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destinations are beyond the measurement
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when our reach continually exceeds our
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grasp and when we have a more tool
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finish lines and when we do this the
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race is never over the journey has no
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port the adventure never ends because we
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are always on the way so do this do this
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and let them let somebody else come up
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and tap you on the shoulder and say hey
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you scored let them run up and tap you
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on the show and say man you won let them
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come tell you you can go home now let
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them say I love you too
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let them say thank you take the lid off
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the man-made routes that we put above
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ourselves and always play like an
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underdog
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